Dear Dr. Meg,

I heard the message today and just happens to be my prodigal daughters 16th birthday! But my situation is complicated. I remarried when she was just 4. I lost custody when she was 6, she was placed in foster home and 6 months later her dad got her and moved 800 miles away. At age 11 , I was able to negotiate with her dad to let her stay with me again, which she did for about 3 1/2 years. From age 13 to 14 she got into drugs, promiscuity and cutting. She would not want to do anything with us. I have two younger boys, and I also worked full time. My husband sometimes undermined my parenting and rules. He would either be very easy going or very rough and without a steady pattern. 1.5 years ago i reached my limit of disobedience, school truancy, lies, manipulations. Even thou I am brokenhearted to this day, I made her leave. I actually drove her about 500 miles to my brother and sister in law after she called the cops after an argument with my husband. Then two weeks later she called her dad and moved there. She begged…