Dear Dr. Meeker,

We have a five-year-old son who is bright, active, creative and happy. Recently he has started making comments when we correct his behavior. These behaviors are not major, mainly just simple things any parent of a five-year-old boy would address. His comments are “I know, you hate me.” “You think I’m stupid.” And even, “you wish I was dead.” Each time we have simply stated we love you very much and have shared that as parents it’s our job to teach him right from wrong. Any suggestions? It breaks this mother’s heart to hear him say this and worry that he thinks we don’t love him. I want to add he is adopted from S. Korea and came home at 14 months. He bonded very well with us and these comments are only made when we correct behaviors.

Thank you,

Worried Mom

Dear Worried Mom,

You are like many other very sweet mothers who feel pained when your child says these things. Let’s put his words in perspective and see what your son is really saying. First of all, he is trying to get your attention and it’s working. He’s 5 years old and knows exactly how to…