Friends- it’s a new year and I’d like to start it in a peculiar way. I realized 30 years ago that if I really wanted to help kids in my practice, I had to help their parents. So- how about we take the month of January and focus, not on your kids but on YOU?
We know this: Happy Moms = Happy Kids. (Well- most of the time.) So- if we want to get serious about helping your kids lead happier, healthier lives, we need to start by helping you be happier.
So how about it? I’d like to challenge you to focus on one word this next week. That word is: YES. Begin using this word more frequently in your life- not necessarily with others, but use it when speaking to yourself. Like this:
Yes, I have what it takes to be happier. Yes, I can get my kids to stop fighting. Yes, I can get through this horrible time. Yes, I can trust my instincts because my instincts are good. Yes, I can lose that 10 pounds that I’ve been trying to lose for 3 years. Yes, I can stand up for myself.
Find the rest of the sentences that you need to follow the word YES and say them to yourself over and over. If you wonder how to find them, listen to how many times you say to yourself, “No- I can’t do that.” Or, “No, I don’t have what it takes to be that way.” When you hear these in your mind, stop them! And replace them with a “YES I can!” sentence
What is it that really bothers you? What are you afraid of? What are your deep struggles? Identify them and then write down the solution. Begin the solution with the word YES.
Then write to me and tell me what your YES sentence is. One week- that’s all I’m asking for. YES- you can do this for one week.
