Dear Dr. Meg,

Hi..you probably get a million of Questions…thought I’d still ask..HELP ME WITH MY TEEN! We are living in a patchwork family. My oldest, almost 16 now, is very defiant. To the point where he’ll just do what ever he wants…if there are consequences, he just runs off to his dad…who lets him do what ever he wants. We gave him the choice, 2 weeks ago, to stay with us and together with the help of a therapist work on the issues. Or, to leave and live with his dad. But he wants to stay here…with no outside help. According to him, he is normal, and I need the help. Now we found out that the past week he spent on winter break with his dad, he was sharing a room with his girlfriend! I really do not know what to do! I cannot condone this behavior. Do I ask him to leave? I gave up trying to reason with his father. He just wants him to do what ever he likes. I would soooo much appreciate your input!!! We still have 2 boys at home who are 6 & 8.

Thank you,

Victoria

Dear Victoria,

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