Dear Dr. Meg,

It has been quite a while since I wrote to you and I am going through a very difficult time. My oldest daughter who is 44, is getting married. She is a Christian and is marrying her partner. Her brother and sister in law are supportive enough to be attending the wedding. I am being ostracized by my daughter and have been told that if I don’t go to the wedding that I will be splitting the family. Her father, who she has not been close with for many years and his wife are coming from out of state to attend. As a mother I am broken hearted. I am taking medications to help me get through this. I am so afraid of losing her, but I am sure that this is so wrong and such a mockery of marriage. What am I to do?

Regards,

Looking For Answers

Dear LFA,

You are in a “damned if you do and damned if you don’t situation.” Let’s try to simplify it the best that we can.

You have strongly held biblical beliefs that your daughter is wrong. As such, you want to communicate your beliefs to your family (and…