Dear Dr. Meg,

I love a man who is married. We have been together for only four months.

I am so obsessive with his incomplete love for me. Deep in my heart I know he can never love me or care about me as much as he loves his wife and his kids. Can you please guide me in a direction for my unfortunate situation?

I am sad when he doesn’t drop me a text daily. My heart will ache when I know he is having a great time with his family. I feel my mood going up and down because of his reaction to me. I don’t know how to help myself with my helpless love for this married man. Please help guide me into a healthier future.

With Warm Regards,

Helpless & In Love

Dear H&IL,

I can hear that you are suffering and I want you to know that you can get over this because the love that you are feeling for this man is not healthy. I say this for several reasons. First, he doesn't love you. He is using you. This is hard to hear but you need to hear it. When you are in a…