It is difficult, confusing, and heartbreaking to watch for anyone. Many of us are asking, When will it end? And parents everywhere are asking, How do I talk to my kids about this?

First, it’s critical that you do talk to them. Your kids are hearing about what’s going on, they are seeing it on T.V. and social media. Their friends are talking about it, and they need you to talk to them. This image by artist Danielle Coke beautifully explains why it’s important to talk about racism in your own home:

During times like this, it is also important to turn to black voices. I was fortunate to interview Benjamin Watson a few years ago about race and diversity. He is a wonderful father, recently retired NFL player, author, activist, and so much more. I’ll never forget what he shared with me, and I find his words still applicable today.

If you’re not sure what to tell your kids about these recent events, I encourage you to heed his words.

Be a gateway, not a wall.

Benjamin shared with me that one of the best things his parents did for him and his siblings growing up was talk openly about…