Fathers are far more insecure than they let on. The overwhelming majority of men enter parenthood without a clue as to what to do.

When you read this title you probably had one of two responses: “Not going to happen, he’s hopeless” or “he’s a good dad already and doesn’t need any help”. Regardless of your answer, you’re wrong. He does need help and he needs it from you. Here’s why: you know him better than anyone and you know your child better than anyone. That means that you know what your child needs from him. Your husband may not. In addition- as a daughter- you know what you wanted as a child from your dad, so you know what your child wants from his dad.

But there’s a problem. Most men (my husband included) don’t like advice and they sure don’t want it from their wives. So, we feel stuck. We aren’t because they will take advice if we give it in an indirect way. I’ve talked with hundreds of dads around the country, and I’ve learned a few things about them that I’d like to…