1. Ask parents of other kids in your child’s class if they know if kids are asking questions about sex. Chances are, if your child’s friends are talking, your child is listening, and it is time she hear about sex from you, her parent.
2. Ask your child a few of the following questions:
- Do any of the kids in your class talk about things like dating, holding hands or kissing?
- Have you ever seen kids in the hall kissing?
- Have you heard of boys and girls doing things on your bus that you don’t understand or that are confusing?
Beginning with questions like these helps you understand whether sexual conversations and thoughts are part of your child’s world. If your child looks at you like a deer in the headlights, he’s not ready. If, on the other hand, he nods his head or looks like he knows what you are referring to, it’s time to have the talk.
3. If your child starts to ask you questions like the following, she is probably ready for the talk:
- Where do babies come from anyway?
- Tommy’s sister is pregnant and she’s not married. How does that happen?
- I learned in class that not everyone has to get AIDS. How do they get it and how do they keep from getting it?
That last one was actually a question my son asked in fourth grade because his teacher asked him to write a paper on AIDS. We discussed this in a grocery store parking lot. When kids ask, you need to answer.
It’s one thing to know when your child is ready to have the talk and another to know what to say during the talk. This is why I created my course How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex. This course includes everything you need to know about when, where, how, and why to have the talk with your child.
I provide sample scripts, FAQs, and exact phrasing and wording you can use as you have one of the most important conversations you will ever have with your child.
If you’ve determined your child is indeed ready to have the talk, this course is a good next step. The talk can feel daunting, but it doesn’t have to. No matter what age your child is, I provide tips and information in this course that will equip you to have a successful, less awkward, and more productive conversation with your child that will keep the door open for future important conversations your child will trust you with.