Dear Dr. Meg,

Please settle a debate. I believe my thirteen and seventeen-year-old daughters should read Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. My wife does not.

How do you feel about it?

Thanks,

Steve

Dear Steve,

While I admire your enthusiasm for my book, I agree with your wife.

Your girls need to see what my book says by watching you become a better dad to them, and it sounds like you are well on your way. They don’t want to read about you being their hero, they want to experience it. And since they already believe that you are the most important man in their lives, they don’t need reinforcement through reading it.

The most important thing you can do now is to teach them the principles in the book. There are some important facts that they need to know: like what the very serious risks of them being sexually active are.

But it’s more preferable for you to tell them (and if they don’t believe you then you can show them a few pages of my book) and use the data to have some good conversations regarding their sexuality and sexual behavior. This is tough to do but I’m sure you’re…