What you can do about verbal and emotional abuse

Dear Mom,

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You are in a difficult situation and one that I am sad to say many women find themselves in. Your husband has serious anger and rage issues, which probably stems from his childhood. But I don’t want to make excuses for him and neither should you.

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I noticed in your letter, you defend him and his good nature. I understand why you would defend him, but I want to shift the focus here from protecting him to protecting you and your children. In order to do that, you will have to face some hard truths and realities, and you may have to make some difficult decisions.

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These decisions, though, are for the best for you and your kids.

First, get help and get away from the abuse

Yelling, telling you that he is not going to stay married once the children are gone and saying other cruel things without apology aren’t acceptable. He’s being verbally abusive.

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The word abuse is triggering. You may not want to admit your husband has been abusive to you. You want to downplay his behavior. But according to the definition of…