Dr. Meg,

I need help!! I sent my 12 y/o daughter off to school in tears this morning. Her last words to me were “it’s not that easy seeing the two people you love the most in the world talking to each other with hate”…..stopped me dead in my tracks. I knew our marriage was struggling and far less than what I believe it should look like but I never knew that it was affecting the children so much. I have thought about divorce many times but always decide to stay because I don’t want our children to get hurt, and now realize they’re hurting anyways. I also struggle with divorce because of my faith. My husband definitely does not want divorce, and refuses any suggestions that I make about counseling, some time apart etc. To him, the only problems we have are mine. He says if I want to go then I can, however the kids are staying with him. I feel like I’m a toy of his, I feel heavy when he’s around and I also feel trapped and squashed. I really don’t know what to do! Can u suggest some resources?

Dear Kerri-

You are gaining very important…