Hi. I am the mom of a beautiful 13 month girl. My question is how do I know if I am spoiling my daughter? I know she is only a year old, but I feel that sometimes I am too nice or allowing. she is very attached to me, but also is sometimes hard to feed because she decides that she doesn’t want to eat, for example. Another thing is she often screams when I try to change her diaper and rolls over and refuses to lay still. How do I raise her not to feel like she can just throw a tantrum to get mom to do what she wants?  Thank you.

Dear Great mother-

At 13 months, it’s hard to spoil a child. Your daughter’s behavior seems completely appropriate for her age. Most 13 month old children have times when they don’t want to eat, sit quietly and many make diaper changing very hard!

That said, you might well have a strong-willed child blossoming. I love strong-willed children because they are the ones who grow up to change the world. The challenge for you is going to be with discipline as she gets older. When she is around 18…