Dear Dr. Meg,

I was unfaithful to my wife, ten months ago. I hid it from her, but it has come out now. She is now questioning 10 years of marriage. She believes I have had multiple infidelities. I cannot combat something that has never happened. I rededicated my life to God, and living as a godly man. I had an inspirational moment in this that has changed me forever. How would you suggest I treat this problem with her? I have been honest and continue to be kind and loving. She doesn’t believe I love her because I betrayed her. Now she believes there have been multiple affairs. I am forgiven, but lost. I want my marriage restored and I am willing to make any change in my life to bring healing and restoration. Please help me.

Signed,

Forgiven But Not Restored

Dear FBNR,

Your wife is bleeding on the inside because of betrayal and hurt and it is perfectly normal for her to question everything about your relationship. Women don’t think the way men do. When something happens in a man’s life, he identifies the problem, finds a solution and then implements it. Women do not do this. We…