Dear Dr. Meg,

I think my ex-wife is emotionally abusing our 7-year-old son, just like she verbally and emotionally abused me when we were married.  I’ve been in and out of court almost two dozen times since she moved out in 2012, and from what I’ve read, she seems to have a lot of the classic characteristics of borderline personality disorder and of the adult child of an alcoholic.

For about the past year she’s been pushing the idea that our son has ADHD, but I think that’s just so she can medicate him into behaving better at her house (since he behaves fine at mine).

She lavishes affection and compliments on his older sister, but practically ignores him unless he misbehaves. I feel like I have to work twice as hard at parenting just to make up for her antics.

Do you have any suggestions on how to protect my son from his mother?

Signed,

A Concerned Dad

Dear ACD,

Your ex-wife sounds like she doesn’t like men. I do not know where this came from but many women who were hurt by their fathers end up demeaning men and their sons. This can be very destructive to children. Unfortunately,…