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My thoughts:

Sadly, this is a common concern among mothers. So you’re not alone in this. First, it’s important to understand the severity of the situation and the effects that yelling has on young kids.

This is abusive behavior.

The word “abusive” might sound strong here. I’m not saying your husband is an abuser. I am saying his behavior is abusive. Accepting this is important in order to move forward and take proper action.

The psychological effects of yelling at kids are dire. Dr. Laura Markham is a clinical psychologist and author of Peaceful Parenting, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She explains that when we yell at young kids, it ignites their fight, flight or freeze response—the anxiety response needed for survival. It’s incredibly stressful and confusing for a child to have such a strong anxiety response to his caregiver—the person who is supposed to be keeping him safe.

Yelling at kids is not an effective communication method. In fact, Dr. Markham says it’s not communication at all. Yelling simply causes distress. Because your child is in fight, flight or freeze mode, he isn’t actually learning anything from your husband in these moments, and he…