Dear Dr. Meg,

My husband and I have been married for 8 years and it has gotten better and we’ve achieved more faith through Christ every year.  We’ve been blessed with 3 children, right in a row. After number 3 we decided together to have my husband get a vasectomy.  For the first few months after, everything felt ok.  As our 3rd child has grown the aching for another child for me has grown.  When I see other moms pregnant or see families with 4 children my heart aches for the entire day.  This is consuming my thoughts everyday. I have spoken with my husband often and shared my feelings. We’ve even discussed a vasectomy reversal but he does not want to do that.  He feels very confident in our decision and is very content as a father of three and does not want more children.  He hurts for me and is very much there for me but clearly does not want to change anything.  I don’t know how to go on with this hurt?

Signed,

Hurting Mother of Three

Dear Hurting Mother of Three,

There are many mothers I have met in my practice (and I am one of those…