Modern moms have gone off the deep end and need to reclaim the joy in their lives, says Meg Meeker, a pediatrician and mom of four who visited TODAY to talk about her new book, “The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers.”

From stressing about breast-feeding to stressing about college applications — and everything in between — Meeker says “getting it right” has become an obsession for many moms. And that’s not healthy, or much fun.

Here’s the healthy approach:

1. Understand your value as a mother.
2. Maintain friendships with women.
3. Make time for solitude.
4. Stop competing with other moms.
5. Find ways to live simply